Introductions – week 1 summary

Well I survived the first week of introductions and I’m not going to lie it has been tough (in some ways).

Spending time with the boys has been wonderful and generally easy – although there has been some pushing of boundaries and getting to know how to manage them (which isn’t always easy!). The first few days I felt happier and more confident with each passing hour but after about the third day I found things really tough. This is not because of the boys in any way but because of the really strange experience that is ‘introductions’.

Being in a stranger’s house 24/7 is never easy but you muddle on through – everyone knows that it has to be done. But as time passed on, and I took on more responsibility, I just felt more and more in the way and ready to move things on. There is generally nothing to do in someone else’s house but sit and play (or watch) the boys and after a few days this gets a little monotonous. I don’t mean to sound ungrateful or unhappy but think it’s important to be honest.

I spent just over a week in someone else’s way and am now thrilled to be starting the second week where the boys will be spending more and more time at my house. I am hopeful that things will start to feel more real and also more relaxed (which will hopefully mean I’m not quite so tired).

Introductions are as tiring as everyone says they are but I was surprised at how awkward they can feel. I am very ready for the next stage though and I know that the past week has been very helpful in that respect.

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2 Comments on “Introductions – week 1 summary”

  1. thefamilyof5 Says:

    I totally remember this feeling. Introductions are like nothing else, and cannot be compared. Overwhelming, emotional, awkward are defo the words i’d use too.
    We found the 2nd week easier as we were out of the fc house much more, but I won’t lie, they were still difficult. They’re a necessity, I didn’t enjoy introductions at all tbf. Hang in there, it’ll be worth it, but don’t be afraid to talk to your sw about how your finding things and especially any behavioural concerns you might have with the boys, it’s better to address these sooner rather than later imo.
    Best wishes for the rest of your intro’s 🙂


  2. Thanks for the update. I love reading about your journey. I’m an adoptive/foster mom in Canada. It’s fascinating to hear about how things are done elsewhere. We don’t have the same “introductions”. Adoptive parents spend a bit of time in the foster home then slowly kids are transitioned to the adoptive home. I can’t imagine being in someone else’s house for such a long period of time. It’s likely challenging for the kids as well. Praying for you & your boys.


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